Posts by I quit!

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Fireworks night tonight!

by dobbie in

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anybody going to a fireworks display tonight in uk?it'll be the first time since being a jw but i love fireworks and am going to one tonight(for the scouts-another no no!

)i still feel abit uneasy about it cos of why jws should'nt do it but know my little boy will love it.i was so disappointed when i became a jw and couldn't do this either!sorry to post something so unimportant but i'm being very childishly excited about it and can't tell anyone else!

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Excuse my ignorance but what are the fireworks for?

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How to help my 3 kids being raised jw? - A Pastor's opinion...

by esw1966 in

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here is the email that my pastor wrote in how best to help with my 3 daughters 13, 11, and 8.. they are being raised by their jw mother in green bay, wi.

i am here in washington.

i get them 40 days in the summer.

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Ethan’s primary job is to love his kids. Period. Anything he does to try and convince them that there Mother is a member of cult (at this age) will only backfire and drive them closer to her. Putting them in the middle of a faith contest will only confuse and devastate them over the long term. He needs to pray for them, love them, communicate with them, and most importantly model Jesus in every circumstance.

I think this is very good advice. You never want to bad mouth your x in front of the children. When they get older they usually figure out who was right and who was wrong on their own.

What is YOUR opinion on how to handle my situation and what did you think of Grant's?

I think he did a good job. He seems like a man who thinks things through before he gives advice. I like Grant.

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WOO HOOO! We handed out candy for the first time!!!

by Bumble Bee in

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the other day i asked my hubby what we were going to do this year on halloween.

he said, hide out in the basement with the lights off as usual.. i wasn't going for that this year.

today i stopped off at the store, bought some scary decorations, a spooky cd and loads of candy.

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I'm glad you're having so much fun Bumble Bee. I enjoy seeing the kid's and handing out candy (which I am doing as we speak). The last couple of years I have included microwave popcorn.

Aude it is 7:50 and I am getting more kids that ever. I thought I was going have candy left over but I may run out.

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JW husband very sad

by Rebirth in

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i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.

he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.

i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.

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Tough situation Rebirth. I feel for you and your husband. If you can no longer believe it you can no longer believe it. I don't understand why jw have such a hard time getting the point. You can't force yourself to believe it and would he really want you faking it? As for his depression I would think if it has taken this long to show up there is other reason for it but it is easier to blame you that look into what is bothering him. JWs like everything in neat, easy to explain packages and the packages never include the Watchtower as a source of their problems. I think you are handling your situation pretty good. I really don't know what you can do. You can't force him to start thinking anymore he can force you to believe the WT. I went through this but I didn't have children. If I had children my marriage may have been over because I wouldn't want my kids being raise as dubs. It is too hard on them. Not just going out in field service but also school. Not being able to salute the flag or participate in holiday activities can really mess with their minds. They go through school constantly being embarassed by their religion. A lot of kids have some things that can't do because of their religion but JW kids can't do anything including sports and making friends.

I wish I could offer and easy way to make everything work out I don't think there is one. All I can say is be kind but be yourself and do what is best for your children.

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Do You Really "Care" If Someone's Gay Or Not???

by minimus in

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so often, you see people all up in arms because it is revealed that an individual is "gay".

do you really care??

personally, i don't.

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No they shouldn't be allowed to get married!!! Some nights I don't get any sleep because I know some where out there two guys are sleeping together or holding hands listening to show tunes. Let them marry and I'll never get any sleep.

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Progress with my wife

by under_believer in

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well, progress continues.

i no longer directly attack my wife's beliefs... i leave her with questions to ponder and give her research assignments.

if there's one thing the witnesses taught me, it's how to talk to people in a nonthreatening way about their beliefs.

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She said "well, the Catholics have a huge problem with that, don't they

When I first left my wife and I had a similar discussion only she was referring to the immorality that goes on in "Christendom" in general. I told her that for every case she brought up I would match her with one where a JW did the same thing. She never took me up on it because she knew I could. I used to push pretty hard because I thought once someone was presented with the facts they would face up to facts, admit they were being duped and leave but it doesn' always work that way. You seem to be doing a pretty good job of bringing things to her attention. You know your wife better than anyone but as an outsider I think the best way is to go slow and don't push too much.

Good Luck

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Farewell, Good Luck, Amensaying Goodbye from the Wanderer

by The wanderer in

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farewell, good luck, amensaying goodbye from the wanderer i want to say thank you to those individuals who reached out to .

me during these past two months.

for all the help you have given me and to each other.. time to move on in life i have decided that after nearly 100 written articles that this will.

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So soon Richard? So soon? Well you know what is best. I've enjoyed you posts and hope you come back now and then.

Take care.

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Old Rutherford vinyl records...

by Sam87 in

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my mother found some old jw records a couple of months ago, they apparently were what the dubs used to use when they were witnessing, theyd go out with a record player and play these records to people to preach to them.. just wondering if anyone else has any of these?

im guessing theres probly not that many of them around, i think i have about 6 or so of them and they are quite old, (im at work at the moment so i cant really tell you any more about them) i was thinking that i mite sell them on ebay, maybe ill get a bit of cash for them.. .

sam87..

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My Mother found some old JW records a couple of months ago, they apparently were what the dubs used to use when they were witnessing, theyd go out with a record player and play these records to people to preach to them.

What songs does he sing on them?

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Thank God no one listened

by I quit! in

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i came it to the watchtower in the early seventies.

while my friends were going to college i was out selling watchtowers.

for some reason while cleaning the garage this morning i was thinking about this and thinking of the doctor i used to go to back then.

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Funny thing is he is still an active witness elder. How odd!!

How odd indeed. I know witness myself that are in that position. I just don't understand why they never catch on.

I always had this nagging thought: What if they do listen and become JWs

I had that same though but I didn't realize it till after I was out and then it surfaced. There were people I really like that I never wanted to become dubs because I knew it would ruin what I liked about them.

I guess if that did happen then the society would have to allow such careers. The witnesses would soon complain if they were ill with no teeth and got burgled every week lol.

I guess the point is the Watchtower Society only works because no one listens to it.

If Hitler had accepted Rutherford's offer we might have been going door to door with Mein Tower.

And I'd bet we would have had some pretty cool uniforms to go alone with Mein Tower. And medals also. The pioneer medal, special pioneer medal, the order of the mike boy medal etc. However I think the disfellowshipings would have been brutal.

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Thank God no one listened

by I quit! in

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i came it to the watchtower in the early seventies.

while my friends were going to college i was out selling watchtowers.

for some reason while cleaning the garage this morning i was thinking about this and thinking of the doctor i used to go to back then.

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I came it to the Watchtower in the early seventies. While my friends were going to college I was out selling Watchtowers. For some reason while cleaning the garage this morning I was thinking about this and thinking of the doctor I used to go to back then. I'm sure he is retired now. This lead to the thought that if people back then had listened to our message of Jehovah's Kingdom there would be no doctors to go to but no shortage of highly inteligent unfulfilled door to door magazine salespeople. Not an original though but one I feel should be expressed now and then.